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NEGOTIATING ENTITLEMENT

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 At what point does expectation transgress into entitlement?

Morally a good deed is expected to be reciprocated though obligatory, which leaves us in a quandary with regards to what constitutes entitlement .


The same group of people that assume a person is entitled for trying to leverage on friendship, family or past deeds is quick to cry foul when he/she is in a position where expectancy is neglected.

Maybe entitlement should be categorized into types.( Thinking out loud)


It's only logical for someone to expect that a past favor be returned in future even if the expectation can't be quantified. I think where the problem lies is when a person puts a tag on what is deserving of them.

For instance if John shares a loaf of bread with peter , he expects Peter to give him at least two loaves if he has 6 loaves.


John's argument to this expectation is that he shared his only loaf with Peter and should therefore be deserving of at least two due to the abundance of bread at Peter's disposal.

Would john have given Peter two loaves if he had six? ( I guess we would never know)


Is John greedy?

It's a two way thing in my opinion, because intent and sacrifice when considered places John's benevolence towards Peter as more of a needing act of kindness.

It's quite arguable but logical.


If Peter refuses to give John two loaves, does it make him a bad person?

Is John right to feel offended?


Entitlement in its true form lacks the needed flexibility to be an outright wrongdoing because morals and emotions will always be considered.


Another scenario, if Abel gives tips on how to run a  business, he expects a certain kind of compensation when profit arises. Morally it is excusable, but could be referred as an act of emotional guilt tripping to the business owner. How contradictory! Which begets the question.


IS ENTITLEMENT PREFERENTIAL TOWARDS MORALS AND SENTIMENTAL TO OBLIGATION?


A conundrum ensues when dealing with family, spouse, kids as they seem to represent a merge between obligation and morals, which eliminates the bias of sitting on the fence.


However it is represented, there is an imbalance in what justifies entitlement as per human relationship.

Negotiating entitlement is probably the only way to navigate through.


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