Flowzcafe

It's always in the mind first. Every thought, decision, and idea is first ingrained in our mind, after which it translates into a choice box somewhere in our brain. We weigh the risks, likability, and interest levels, and we reach a conclusion to act or not.   In between all of the above processes is a safe lock (the mindset). It serves as the fuel that transitions the processed information into a loop of uncertainty or clarity. The mindset is also independent of influence. It only projects what is given unto it. That's why it's extremely important to feed it positively, as against being pessimistic.   Let me give a practical analogy. Except on rare occasions, the actor in a movie, the protagonist, will always win irrespective of whatever is thrown at it by the antagonist. Somewhere in my subconscious I already have it ingrained that the actor will always defeat the boss, a local palanche, no matter how disadvantaged he is. Even when it's clear beyond every reasonabl...

Did someone just say God forbid? Lol The average human tends to have a sentimental look out to a situation instead of leaning towards the reality, maybe our religious background and undertones are responsible for this stance. But then does reality care about our feelings and emotions? I assume you can answer that from your lens of understanding. What if the universe is built to reward suffering? The Bible consciously revolved around rewarding pain especially in the face of hopelessness, scars from war and rebellion towards staying put. Bringing it down to our life in general, should suffering with all due respect be in the same sentence as value. I for one can relate to how unfair the world is to me, I think I am good person and I don't deserve the level of pain I have faced. Do you think I do? Do you also deserve better? I have had conversations with the old and their opinions tilts towards the same route, you will appreciate something when you sweat and work hard for it.  From ...

   How do you measure success outside of your terrain?, Especially when it is something you had considered abstract, weird or even an outright waste of time  I had one of the most humbling experiences in recent time. I represented my boss at an event called the readathon 2.0. My idea behind the gathering was simply to read and probably see people dress bougie and decent to depict a supposed imagery that connotes "responsible". Truth be told this is the kind of atmosphere I consider boring based off the kind of audience I am used to( football, party and night outs). The first thing that stood out for me when I got in was seeing faces that I never assumed were in the same city as me. Then it dawned on me, this people exist for what they consider "important" to themselves, i doubt most of them were club and party freaks( there's always exceptions). In the same vein I didn't see any of my regular faces in that space.   Now to the most interesting part, the atmo...

 I couldn’t process what I just saw! I need an explanation urgently before I explode, a thought in my head whispered. On getting to where my driver ( soon to be ex)was standing, I roared at the top of my voice HOW DARE YOU IGNORE MY CALLS? The ugly Man rudely interrupted me, saying all manner of gibberish. I honestly can’t remember the choices of words because I already have a dislike towards him and my anger was at my driver. Immediately, my driver got on his knees as tears rolled down his eyes. I was shocked and confused, then he  said in a hushed tone ” I lost her”. At this point nothing made sense to me, but I had become calmer seeing him on his knees. The midget of a Man( the ugly Man) wouldn’t stop ranting, he was screaming and asking him why he would kneel before a common woman. Now I remember some of his words. ” Disrespectful, stupid, born by mistake, fool”. He kept saying do you know I can give birth to you??!! I ignored the living day light out of whatever rubbish h...

  Ever since I got into the new estate at Conan road, it has been one hell of a task getting to work . There is a renovation going on around the estate premises that makes it difficult to move around with my car, especially for those of us living at block 2 ave. Rewind a bit.. My name is mojisola akachukwu,  Half igbo and Yoruba. I come from a fairly comfortable family and God being merciful I am a first class graduate of biochemistry from the university of Auckland. Enough with the introduction, Back to my story. I work with a big consultation firm just around the corner ( I will withhold the name for security reasons). I had to find a means to get to work since the block 2 Ave was still under renovations. I spoke to the head of security who introduced me to an Uber driver that would pick me up at the gate and drop me off after work.  Everything was going smoothly until around day five I think. My Uber driver failed to show up after work and I already had a soiled mood o...

 This is probably the default reaction to a bad incident. The average person believes in the reject system as a coping mechanism amidst a terrible situation.  For example  Bad marriage ( it can never be me) Losing wealth ( it can never be me) Domestic violence ( it can never be me) Plane crash ( it can never be me) Surprisingly it keeps happening over and over again, this time to a different person who at a point might have said " it can never be me". We are by default attracted to a good life, I doubt anyone would want to put themselves in a terrible situation out of boredom or some flimsy excuses. So it's amusing that something beyond human control is treated with such levity. Faith , words of affirmation and declarations are beautiful, as it is a motivation to achieve. A positive mindset that keeps the mind focused and determined. But is it enough to avert an accident? Why do you think it could never be you in that bad relationship, accident, fire outbreak, disaster an...

 Everyday is a struggle for survival, everyone is hustling for a space on the table. In a ploy to get ahead we are willing to destroy whatever obstacle is on the way without minding whose ox is gored. Human to human relationships is one of the most difficult because everyone acts from their perspective and personal beliefs ( most times it's against others) Everyone thinks they're not the problem, They probably deserve a good friend. We are quick to point a finger at a supposed bad ship without looking inwards. What if you ain't shit? What if you are a bad person? What would you do if you are in a similar position to what you judge? Would you handle it differently  Everyone has a wicked ex, a back biting friend, a stingy and proud friend, a bad advisor, a sad friend, a trouble making friend, a cheating friend. I can go on and on and on! If everyone is pointing fingers, who then is guilty? Hypocrisy is such a bad card! When we are faced with the difficult situation, there is ...

 A lot of people are watching! If you have a super power to see the abstract, you will be surprised at the amount of people watching you secretly. Maybe they want you to fail or they are just curious. Some are waiting to see the end result, while only a tiny fraction genuinely want to see you win.  Everyday you show up , someone sees you  When you fail to show up, another person is seen. If you continually refuse to show up, more people are seen and you go down the radar. What does it tell you? Everyone that comes across you is watching  Not everyone would drop a comment, Not everyone would leave a like or a positive review about your life and business in general. It could be the ego or the innate nature of humans to associate with success. Whatever it is, know that a shadow of eyes are noticing. Your enemies want to see you fail and they are constantly watching every thing you do. Their facial expressions are mean, their body language is unreceptive, they eagerly wa...

 Hey Man there's a party just across the street, bad ass girls, weed, raunchy games and mad fun! Let's go chill and unwind. If your answer is "NO", they try to shame you with a boring tag and gaslight you into thinking you're about to miss out on the best there is. Let's go to the club Let's go light some weed Let's go fuck some good pussy  Notice the pattern?  It's never about your benefits and self improvement. They all go mute when it's time to put you up for business. If you put a call through" about needing a business or money" then their tone changes. " I'm not sure you can do this" " the business ain't all that profitable" " networking is just a mirage" ( the excuses are so loud) If you think I could have fun with you, why not put me on how to break bread with you? Society is normalizing recklessness as a personality trait, until you run into a deep mess and then you are another casualty ( ...