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 Money is arguably the number one requirement for a successful transition into adulthood( health aside). In the chase for money a single person is way different from a married person, as there is a transition into how money is ought to be spent. The phase of accountability, prudence, intentionality and conviction are the deciding factors that rule how money is spent.  The key word in this article is marriage!.  As simple as it sounds, marriage is the quickest way to lose money in the long run as there is little or no room for failure. Any slip is detrimental to sustainable wealth.  The process of putting your interest below to accommodate other expenses is known as married money. While single money is the act of putting yourself first in every monetary consideration. A single person's 5000 is equivalent to a married person's 20000. A lot of people who are faith inclined refuse to acknowledge the huge difference between the two. Faith is a moral recital and it helps a...

 When you pay attention to the intent of a word of advice, then you can gauge if it's from a place of care, concern or disguised mockery. The " Go and marry" tag falls in line with the disguised mockery often packaged as a genuine concern. Age, finance and status are mostly the determinant of these fallacious shows of sportsmanship as it is always a subtle way to remind you of your decline. Rarely does happiness, companionship or even peace of mind be considered as a criteria for the supposed " Go and marry" advice. Isn't it surprising that if there is a refusal on your part to cling onto the marriage ship, they throw in a subtle jibe and undertone caricature, reminding you of your anticipated decline and risk of losing out in life. Every other achievement is discarded and you are faced with multiple reasons why you are on your way to doom. Then the game starts, Pressure from onlookers Constant reminder of your lack of purpose (marriage wise) Subtle jibe and...

 This is a timely reminder that exclusivity in the modern day relationship is almost non existent ( let's give grace to the 1 percent of exception). Your defensive instincts will probably tell you it's a farce and ploy to ruin the little fun moment. Like they say " a blind boyfriend is a good boyfriend", what you don't know doesn't exist as long as there is no prior information. The side nigga has refused to spill or aim for the bull eye ( your place), that's why you think she's only yours. It takes a player to tell a good woman and that can only be determined after she passes  Test of sexual inclination( a hot body) Test of lifestyle ( money, fame and glamour) Test of game ( flirty and cocky admiration) Finally and ultimately the test of secrecy( nobody is going to know) Men are wired to chase sex and it's only logical that they get together with a woman except for gay Men. 90 percent of the time a Man is chasing a new pussy to conquer for valida...

 At what point do I get a thumbs up? A silver lining, A pat on the back and a word of encouragement. It feels like there is no place for effort until there are results. Evidence is a prerequisite for hard work, not your sweat, scar or tears. Who is paying attention to every single brick laid down?  The scars are a constant reminder that you are worth nothing except when you win according to society standards. The people watching you show up everyday are the first to criticize you when the chips are down. If effort and hard work is the template for success, why is effort disregarded in the face of adversity? We have raised a society that is afraid of process and accountability, instead we are keen on results, not because of gratitude or a sense of accomplishment but a means to prove, validate and conquer the fear of ridicule that is associated with efforts. A cleaner is most times referred to as " just or ordinary", but if eventually he becomes successful, automatically there ...

 I believe nothing in life is absolute, especially when there is no concrete evidence as to the biological existence of humans. Almost everything is arguable due to the knowledge of right and wrong. If there is an advantage then there should be a disadvantage. We grow up into existing ideologies, set ups and doctrines without questioning some of the beliefs even if they don't align with our morals and values as a people. People aren't inquisitive, they don't ask themselves certain questions. We think things can only be done correctly the way we were taught.  The human mind is vast and should be capable of making an independent decision. A lot of people are afraid to question the norm due to the fear of backlash. The idea of criticism in private is stale , as it rarely helps any course.  Avoiding conflicts but instigating disagreement in little circles is cowardly. When the foundation is faulty, the building suffers! The herd mentality stinks! Why should a burial ceremony ...

 Say a prayer with me to the universe. I have erred and sinned against the innate sense of good deeds, I have offended the laws of righteousness and virtue, I seek for pardon and strength to persevere. I wasn't born this way, but I guess money is the root of all evil! Forgive my shortcomings. Please blame money and accept my decisions. In the time of sobriety and calmness, we think about our decisions, We care about our thoughts and actions, We are filled with remorse, yet alive in the euphoria of vanity. What is the purpose of making bad decisions? Money, Money, Money!! Please put the blame on Money! We convince ourselves with the idea of leveling up, Society is unfair and unkind to the poor, The decision is almost rigged against you. How am I expected to scale through life hurdles, when my voice is equivalent to my pocket? Not regrets, not shame, not even money can erase the guilt! With clarity comes accountability. Maybe I'm too emotional for this world. Maybe I deserve to b...

 The cycle keeps repeating,  typical man/woman totally shattered because a supposed better half ruined an untold fallacy about sticking together. I struggle to understand how difficult it is for two opposite sex out of millions to copulate devoid of hurt,drama, cheating and what have you. A conscious and intentional process led to an agreement to date, which technically means there was an acceptance out of other probable options to be together. Recent happenings always connote a safe pattern of early stage mushiness and lovey dovey until a party drifts or meets a perceived better person. So it is somewhat subconsciously established that the average human cannot be with a particular person for long. Why is there still the need to date instead of having a mutual friendship which could be sexual depending on the scenario? The trauma, hurt that a heartbroken person exhibits is baffling and quite surprising,  sentiment wise maybe I have never truly been broken to exhibit pains...

 Most times it is usually an act of selflessness, kindness and calmness that qualifies a person to be referred to as good. This makes it a contextual and conditional debate, as the same person can be assumed bad if he/she fails to replicate that act in a different environment or time. If Mr Emeka offers Mr Frankie help without having any expectations, he is considered a good person according to Mr Frankie. If Mr Emeka treats Mr John badly in another situation, it is mostly assumed Mr Emeka is a bad person according to Mr John. It becomes a case of timing, perception, context , situation and so on.  A lot of times as humans we tend to focus on deeds as a judge of character, and since there is no absolute assurance for continuous good or bad act it is only logical to assume no one is really a good person. The same person that hurt someone in the past suddenly expects to be treated fairly, totally disregarding their actions towards another person before now. It's crazy that our ...

 It sounds like a farce and an anomaly, but the reality is that the average man in the quest for sex is willing to be humiliated, shamed and embarrassed just for sexual pleasure. When a woman boldly says " I have men begging me" " If you don't do it someone else will" Better believe that shit!!!  you will be surprised at the level Men can go to get a sniff of the vagina! A Man would deny his wife, Sell out his friends, Fight and kill just to get laid and you are wondering why women are audacious with their standards. Just because you're a fine girl send your account. How cringe and laughable! Men have subconsciously enabled entitled women and now they are trying to cower and play victim, Hell no! What do you mean by a girl asking me for money before she can see me, what do you expect Mr Man? You are paying to hook up You pay flight tickets for a total stranger  You entice another Man's woman with money  You buy cars and houses for undeserving women and y...

 Oh my God!, did you see the car he bought her, Did you see the money bouquet, The ring, the diamond, the food, the clothes  He/she is so intentional! Then the infamous quote rings out loud " an intentional Man/ intentional woman". With a sprinkle of " awwwn" serenading the atmosphere. So cute I guess? Is this truly what intentionality entails or just a way of seeking validation and urging our transactional instincts to survive! The silence is deafening....... It's mostly particular with women who attach intentionality to a good deed done by a Man and somehow convince other women ( herd mentality) to put up a standard of receiving expensive gifts as a show of true intent. But when it comes to an actual moment of intentionality, there is a sudden shift from accountability to uncertainty. Can I get your number? No I'm sorry, I have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Can I buy you lunch? No I'm sorry, my partner won't like that  Can you wake up late to make you...

The thought is scary and unfair according to morals and emotions, but reality says otherwise because the truth is neither based on assumptions nor permutations. We can argue that " the thought of never rising again" is actually an assumption based on the theory of facts. How then does one navigate through a life of uncertainty? The bitter truth is that the chances of making something tangible out of life is a herculean task when placed in the ratio of man to man according to the population. This beget the question, What if we never rise from afflictions or pain? What if we never become rich and successful? What if we don't have a successful marriage? What if and what if's? Is there any chance of enjoying life if things don't go our way? Is there fulfillment at the other end of the spectrum. Christianity will pitch its tent towards Jesus as the helper of the weak and the redeemer, but the average person seems to only believe in success and riches so it becomes inc...

It's always about how he/she looks. How much is spent  The perfume The car The glam and generosity. Isn't it contradictory that a person in his will to attain success is supposed to save up and invest for a better future ( delayed gratification), yet an important criteria in today's world ,you're judged by your ability to spend unceremoniously, irrespective of whatever you have going on(long term or short term). The thought of this probably makes sense to you now, but in the position of comparison, a man who spends 5 million naira in the club but has a total of 10 million naira is accorded a certain respect and considered richer than someone who owns a business that makes 200 thousand naira weekly. How ironical!! The society is like a doctrine where we just grow up into existing ideologies without questioning the rationale behind such acts / beliefs.  The worship of money subconsciously alters our decision making especially when it's lavishly spent!  The pressure t...

Time and time over it keeps happening, Men cannot handle a cheating woman despite the knowledge that a large percentage of women cheat. The average man is more concerned about ego instead of how he's been treated. Do I think cheating is bad? Definitely  Do I encourage cheating women? No This article is focused on paying attention and receiving the best of affection from women, rather than finding solace in exclusive loyalty which is very rare. In the context of this conversation( a good girlfriend) is someone who puts you first, cooks and cares for you, motivates and assists you in a way that the average girl doesn't. Now the question beckons, why should I throw all of these attributes and genuine affection away because of who a woman fucks or makes out with? Reality is that the average woman cheats and somehow most Men think theirs is a Saint. So whose babe are other men fucking?!! Isn't it laughable and quite delusional. Men need to realize that only in marriage should ch...